In today’s fast-paced world, where conversations are short, tempers are shorter, and digital communication often replaces real connection, manners can feel like a forgotten art. Yet, in Islam, good character is not just encouraged—it’s required. The way we speak, act, and treat others is a direct reflection of our faith.
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was described by Allah in the Qur’an as being on “an exalted standard of character” (Qur’an 68:4). He didn’t just preach kindness—he lived it. He didn’t just talk about patience—he embodied it. Through his daily interactions, both with those who loved him and those who opposed him, he showed that manners are the most powerful form of inviting others to the truth.
The Foundation: Character as a Core Part of Islam
Islam is a holistic way of life, and character lies at its core. The Prophet (PBUH) said:
“I was sent only to perfect good character.” (Hadith)
This powerful Hadith reminds us that our actions, tone, and behavior are part of our worship. It’s not enough to pray and fast if our manners are careless. Islam teaches us that how we deal with people is a measure of how we stand with Allah (The Creator).
The Prophetic Way of Speaking: Truthful, Kind, and Measured
The Prophet (PBUH) was known for his soft-spoken nature, never raising his voice in arrogance or anger. He chose his words carefully and never used language to humiliate others.
He taught:
“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or remain silent.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
In an age of online arguments, sarcasm, and digital outbursts, this Hadith is more relevant than ever. Speaking kindly, avoiding gossip, and staying silent when words might harm are all part of a good character.
The Way He Treated Others: Mercy in Action
The Prophet’s (PBUH) character shone most brightly in how he treated those around him—friends, family, strangers, even enemies.
- He stood when an elderly woman entered the room.
- He played with children and lowered himself to their level.
- He forgave those who hurt him, prayed for those who rejected him, and smiled even in the face of insult.
A famous story recounts a woman who used to throw garbage on him daily. When she didn’t show up one day, he inquired about her wellbeing and went to visit her. That’s not just manners—that’s moral excellence.
Prophetic Habits That Reflect Beautiful Manners
Practicing Islamic manners isn’t complicated. In fact, the most beautiful manners are also the simplest:
- Saying words of peace when meeting others (Salam)
- Smiling genuinely (“Smiling is charity” — Hadith)
- Listening without interrupting
- Using people’s names when addressing them
- Lowering your voice and avoiding harsh tones
- Keeping promises and being on time
These small acts of kindness, when done with sincerity, uplift hearts and build trust. They are as crucial as any formal ritual.
Digital Dignity: Bringing Islamic Manners to the Online World
We now live much of our lives online. While the Prophet (PBUH) didn’t use smartphones or social media, his teachings absolutely apply to digital spaces.
- Think before you post
- Avoid backbiting, sarcasm, and passive-aggression in messages
- Don’t forward unverified content (Qur’an 49:6)
- Use your online presence to spread peace, not provoke arguments
Your manners behind a screen are still your manners.
Anger, Sarcasm & Ego: The Real Tests of Manners
Manners shine brightest when they are hardest to uphold. In moments of anger, stress, or pride, the true character of a person is revealed.
The Prophet (PBUH) said:
“The strong one is not the one who can overpower others, but the one who controls himself when angry.” (Bukhari)
Sarcasm, if gentle and understood, have a good place. However, Islam discourages mockery, humiliation, and harshness, especially when it causes harm. Manners require emotional discipline and humility.
Final Reflection: Manners That Change the World
The Prophet’s character drew people to Islam more than any lecture or miracle. His kindness, patience, humility, and honesty made him beloved even to his enemies.
In a world hungry for compassion and grace, reviving his manners isn’t just about looking religious—it’s about being truly connected to faith.
Every smile, every kind word, every act of honesty is an opportunity to reflect the beauty of Islam. So whether you’re at home, in traffic, at work, or behind a screen — carry the manners of the Prophet (PBUH) with you and see the magic!
