Topic: The Trouble Tree

[firdaus]

It was said in a story and I read this with great interest....
 
The carpenter I hired to help me restore an old farmhouse had
just finished a rough first day on the job. A flat tire made
him lose an hour of work, his electric saw quit and now his
ancient pickup truck refused to start.

While I drove him home, he sat in stony silence. Upon arriving,
he invited me in to meet his family. As we walked toward the
front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the
tips of the branches with both hands.

When opening the door he underwent an amazing transformation.
His tanned face was wreathed in smiles and he hugged his two
small children and gave his wife a kiss. Afterward he walked
me to the car. We passed the tree and my curiosity got the
better of me. I asked him about what I had seen him do earlier.

"Oh, that's my trouble tree", he replied. "I know I can't
help having troubles on the job, but one thing for sure,
troubles don't belong in the house with my wife and the
children. So I just hang them up on the tree every night
when I come home. Then in the morning I pick them up again."

"Funny thing is," he smiled, "When I come out in the morning
to pick them up, there ain't nearly as many as I remember
hanging up the night before".

-- Unknown


dear  brothers and sisters in Islam...

I look forward to your comments and I am wondering who will respond to this piece of story which I have posted.

And who will dialogue with me about some of their own practises to find some meaning to their busy busy worlds...

How do YOU cope in today's world, that seems to be an endless pile of paperwork??

Come... I invite you to talk to me about this issue.

[Sahar]

hanging up troubles on a tree.  I think it is a good idea.

Actually, I always try to separate among my work, my study and my personal life. Each has its responsiblities and Each ofcourse has its troubles.
I think I have succeeded in making this separation to a good degree. alhamdoliluh.
It is not an easy world to live in. we meet troubles nearly everyday and everywhere. If we do not make this separation, we are making our life harder and harder.

[firdaus]

Actually, I always try to separate among my work, my study and my personal life. Each has its responsiblities and Each ofcourse has its troubles.

al7amdulillah dear sahar... this is a very good idea to separate the different facets and aspects of life... thats one good way... yes.

any other takers then???

come on... join in... please feel free.

[CrescentOfTheMoon]

Very reasonable, generous , patient husband, and a rational act to do ...
we can think rationaly the same as he thought for his innocent children and for his subtle wife, why we should enter our troubles with us inside and fail our children since that we know that these children are innocent and pure inside, why we should fail them up when they came cheering to us ? or why we should add to our wife the glumness between her two lovely eye-brows ??
we can imitate his act or try to imitate, so yeah, why we should increase the burden more on the others ?
May allah increases our wisdom and grants us more patience ya rab ...

Baraka'allahu fiki sister for this article ...

[firdaus]

maasha Allah!!! ameen wa feekum dear crescent!!!!

yessss thats the kind of husband i would like !!! LOOOOOOOOL

but seriously... yes... we should have some sort of trouble tree to protect the innocents in our families too... maasha Allah... that was such a lovely comment....

who else is there to make a comment on my trouble tree, inshaa Allah??

[CrescentOfTheMoon]

That sort of trouble tree can be depicted inside our hearts of course, We know clearly that there is no kind of these trees, lol : ) ...all what we have to do is depicting inside this kind of act expressing and try to do the same ...
May Allah helps us ...
^_^

[firdaus]

true...

it does lay within us for many of us, but for some.. they need to express this in a more physical sort of way...

[CrescentOfTheMoon]

Do you think the parents are capable to avoid having troubles inside their house forever ?
i think its impossible for some reasons , and thats why we have to be aware and conscious for the incoming obstacles ....plus ! having troubles doesn't mean the end of the relation between the husband and the wife ....
or you can say fighting doesn't solve anything on the contrary it increase the burden more ...Having troubles means as for me is " Sit And Discus " .
And when these troubles happens it might strengthening the relation between them , they can be more capable to comprehend each other more than they used to be and not to fall in mistakes again ...
Well , we can expand more about this issue , but i need help : )

[firdaus]

Do you think the parents are capable to avoid having troubles inside their house forever ?
i think its impossible for some reasons , and thats why we have to be aware and conscious for the incoming obstacles ....plus ! having troubles doesn't mean the end of the relation between the husband and the wife ....
or you can say fighting doesn't solve anything on the contrary it increase the burden more ...Having troubles means as for me is " Sit And Discus " .
And when these troubles happens it might strengthening the relation between them , they can be more capable to comprehend each other more than they used to be and not to fall in mistakes again ...
Well , we can expand more about this issue , but i need help : )

that is why i am here dear crescent...  to help. tell me.... HOW can i help?

[CrescentOfTheMoon]

that is why i am here dear crescent...  to help. tell me.... HOW can i help?

you can help by sharing your ideas about this issue, and expressing what is inside or expressing the real you are , in this way , we can facilitate the way for the others of how to find a clue or something , of course we are not that very eloquent ...so lets just sit and discuss : )
^_^