Topic: what I got problems with deaf muslim man for 4 months!!

[smileysis237]

:bismi:

 :salam:

 guess  what ?? I am  back here now ,  I am  fine and well  :hamdou:

that time ,  I was in  class in  job search centre and  that  matchmaker gave me  this deaf  muslim  man  from afghanstian....  I had too  nervous to call him on tty (on phone)  and  talked ,  talked ...  I met him at  train station ,   he is soo  handsome and abit  tall ,  musclar figures.  we  were talked soo  good .   it was  same my  age 34 , we  were talked on tty for   every day...
 :?  :?  
 we had  began together ,   he started fell in love  with  me ...   we were  go out  together  , it was  really  happy  but  he was very strict about deaf friends ,   he said to me  "  it is not  allowed  for  spending  with deaf  friends and my old  school friends too.. "      :shock:  :shock:

he wanted  to  spend with  me ,    I had talk with my friend (girl talk) about  him ,  I told  it was  strict to me ...  he was tough love with me ,  he jumped  with me alot  because   we were  lovemaking for few times,  I was  confused ..    I told him to  slowly .. but  he isnt...

 one  problem  my sister friend  was trying to break us  and she  wants take him  but  I  told her  off ..   I had to  cut off  with her  about  one  month ago....

then  last night   my  friend  come over ,   when  he was there ,   he got fursatued with me ,   it was  heavy  rain ,  let her in  and  talked at all .
he  wants  me  to  ask  her  go  home ,   she felt so  hurt ...  it is too  strict...      then   I had pray to allah and I felt soo   badly .. it was  too tough love ...  I know  it was  haram for  bf and  gf  , it is not  easy at all    

I was  asking  him for  question and  he had  too many old  girlfriend but  he  had  girlfriend for  8 months  before me !! subhallah,   I told him it is not  worth  for  him  ,   he  stared at me , he was soo shock at  me   what I say to him  first time ,  he will  felt soo bad ,  I told him it s not worth for  this girl ,  she will take  other one  ,  too bad ,   he got s uprised ..
I wanted to  spend with  him but   he says  " i will choosing which one "
I told   him   it is not  good  at all ,  I told  him  that  my friend who  got  married  for   2 months ,  he says to me  " this is soo  silly"   I told him  that  " that is  very  islamic way " ,   he says  "that is  bad !!" :shock:  :shock:  subhallah!!    

 I say to him  " we  were lovemaking for  many times "  he said "you jumped too far "   and  I said to  him  ,  "   you did to  me "   he stared again  he was  bare eyes!!
he was hard to say to me , he  thinks that I am smart  ...  

he went  to  see  his  brother  then  home ..  he will  see me  again??

it  is not  easy  at  all  ,    that  relationship are   great but  too stirct  too much      :?

I wish  find good deaf muslim man  for  my life  inshallah ,  I felt like  missing out ..  

that 's how  I felt  for  him ,   but  I m trying to  see  other  deaf muslim  who are  very  flexible ...   it is too hard ...  ohhh my  dear ...

may allah guide me  and may  allah  forgive me  ameen

[me_against_wahhabis]

@SmileySis

I am little bit confused. Did you just say that you had a bf? I don't understand grrrrrrrrrrrr.

[smileysis237]

salam akoium,  

that is my   deaf language  as well ,   but  my english is  not  bad  at all

[me_against_wahhabis]

wa ^alaykum as-salam

@smileysis237

I didn't say your english is bad. I didn't understand that the above text. that's all but it is ok... don't get offened. It is time for chill out.

[Advisor]

smileysis I think your problem is too complicated(and sensitive) to be discussed in this public forum. I really don't want to misunderstand anything since your language is a bit vague to us (vague=unclear).
anyway I wish some other sister would contact you via PM or msn and try to help you.

I wish you well.

[smileysis237]

oh right !!  I m trying to  clear  for my language

[Adalia]

Subhan^allah, is love making meant to be spoken about on a public forum. I think it all should stay in PM.. Confused. Shocked really.

[Milk]

Subhan^allah, is love making meant to be spoken about on a public forum. I think it all should stay in PM.. Confused. Shocked really.

I agree with you sis Adalia, but maybe our sister Smileysis doesn't have anyone else to talk to and needs advices.

[Adalia]

I agree with you sis Adalia, but maybe our sister Smileysis doesn't have anyone else to talk to and needs advices.[/quote]

Well thats fine, though PM is much more suited.

[Advisor]

I really had a bad time trying to understand what the sister intended in this statement since her language is a bit strange to me so I chose not to ask her what she meant and not to presume anything. I hope she finds someone to help her and give her advice.
(I know my name is Advisor but somethings are out of my league )