Topic: WIFE A BURDEN ON HUSBAND

[Sadaf]

assalam_o_alaikum

I have a very important question about women as a wife and mother
What does Islam says about this i want to know in detail if you can help me

a wife taking care of her husband her children and husbands parents and cleaning house, making food for everyone, before eating provide food to everyone, do all laundry, and each and everything at home and than get a reward of burden from her husband and if she shout and argue with them and say what did not i have done for you and do not do job because small kids who are at home and husband can not afford to do arrangement for babysitter and if shout so get slap over face and if she want divorce so according to people think about your kids first than do this .and after doing everything get a reward of nothing

Women which i mentioned here do not spend money over herself, not making too many clothes, not wasting money only doing her job but getting nothing  

I want to know what the status of wife, woman and mother in Islam is.

Is this right that she can not shout for herself?

What does Islam say?

I want to get this in info in detail because I want to show this to a man who says I am Muslim

What are rights of wife, what are duties of husband?

 Wife who says she will get job when her kids are school going but sacrifices her professional future for her kids

And when shouting over that matter does it counts in disrespect of husband?

jazakallah




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[Sami Yusuf Islam]

first of all, welcome to talkaboutislam my sister, and I am truly sorry to see that you are suffering so much .

may Allah help you

I ask Allah to help you find a solution to all of this.

First of all, you must know that it is no lack of respect to your husband that you shout to bring him back to the righteous pathway if you see that he is going so astray.

Let me explain: your husband, who says I am Muslim, must know that it is an absolutely horrible sin to hit you on the face. So he may stop this.

your kids: those who are adult, you do not owe them anything. You are not obliged to prepare food for them, or do their beds, or wash their clothes or do the cleaning in their rooms. They must do that by themselves.

Adult here means islamically adult. This is usually when one gets biologically speaking adult, around the age of 12 years old.

So those of your sons who are about 12 years old, they should take care of their own stuff.

and they should not ask you to do anything for them.

Those who are younger, it would be very kind of you if you teach them and prepare for them. But even those, if they wish to ask for something, they must do so in a very polite manner.

For example : may Allah bless you and reward you mama, would you kindly help me carry my bag?

Tell your husband, too much strain breaks even steel..... what about human beings ?

[Adalia]

Assalamun Aleikum dear sister Sadaf,

I, a woman myself think that it would be much so difficult to have to do all these things on your won and be screamed at and not appreciated by your husband. You should know the understanding for yourself of what a muslim "wife" status is so you can tell this to your husband cos as he is muslim he should know and obide by what is right in Islam. People do go astray and without knowledge around them seem to do the wrong things without realising and because of past experiences in there childhoods. Though this is not an excuse he should seek knowledge and understand that lifting a hand against his wife is a very big sin.
I pray that Allah will guide you and your husband in the right direction

Assalam

[me_against_wahhabis]

As-salamu ^alaykum sister

I asked Allah to help you and guide you in true path. Ameen It is hard sometime when stress come from the family and from you love one specially. Be paitience sister that's what I can say and I know our muslim sister are smart so use it to play role in the family to make everything according to islam. If someone is ignorant about knowledge let him seek the knowledge and let him remeber this "Absence of Knowledge is ignorant and ignorant is not an excuse in islam". Be paitient who knows may be the calamity it is a test from Almighty Lord of the World (Allah), Him has the power of everything. Sabr sister sabr...May Allah help you ameen.

[Sami Yusuf Islam]

I pray that Allah will guide you and your husband in the right direction

too.


a relationship based on physical punishments is not a very productive one.

The prophet Mouhammad ? ? ?  NEVER physically punished a spouse or a servant.... NEVER

[tehaiba]

hi my name is tehaiba khatoon i am a marrid womman now sins 7 yers now and there is no way that i going back to him his name is mohammed khalid and all the time we faith for just enything now a day i have spent a good day or night so now i am in my mum + dads house sins 8 muonths
not just 8 but muonths in 7 yers i have staying with my mum and dad the mosty all becuse of him all the time he hits me shouts at me and meny more which now i have thuk ploce chase on him and going to have a englash divorce with him then islam divorce .......but i need big hellp, hellp that can tell a man that he is not musilm if he slaps his wife on her face or khic her in her stomuk when she is going to be his babys mothere
 that is the why i am going to have a divorce buy there are many more which i am going to tell u Allha hafis  
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[CrescentOfTheMoon]

hi my name is tehaiba khatoon i am a marrid womman now sins 7 yers now and there is no way that i going back to him his name is mohammed khalid and all the time we faith for just enything now a day i have spent a good day or night so now i am in my mum + dads house sins 8 muonths
not just 8 but muonths in 7 yers i have staying with my mum and dad the mosty all becuse of him all the time he hits me shouts at me and meny more which now i have thuk ploce chase on him and going to have a englash divorce with him then islam divorce .......but i need big hellp, hellp that can tell a man that he is not musilm if he slaps his wife on her face or khic her in her stomuk when she is going to be his babys mothere
 that is the why i am going to have a divorce buy there are many more which i am going to tell u Allha hafis  
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Al'salamu 'aliekum sister tehaiba ! Welcome to our Forum sister : ) ..
are you from pakistan ? and does your husband is Ahmadi ??

[me_against_wahhabis]

as-salamu ^alaykum sister

welcome to forum......It is sad when one married to an ignorant and treat their wife badly.

but i need big hellp, hellp that can tell a man that he is not musilm if he slaps his wife on her face or khic her in her stomuk when she is going to be his babys mothere
that is the why i am going to have a divorce buy there are many more which i am going to tell u Allha hafis

Slaping and striking her it is a sin according to Islam one is not exit from Islam by doing so. It is extremly forbidden to beat the wifes or slap.

Subhan'Allah, I ask Allah to make it easy for you and your up-coming baby. Amin.. Be Paitient for the sake of Allah.

[aziz.abdulrahman]

i will just like to give my sallam to you all,  please if any body here can make dua for me i will be very grateful.

[me_against_wahhabis]

Wa ^alaykum as-salam

we will make du^a insha'Allah. Welcome to forum!!