Topic: "Would you marry me?"

[Servant of Islam]

"Would you marry me?"

This is a sentence that usually makes the girl happy, when she knows that someone wants to spend the rest of his life with her…

Even if a girl did not like that man who's proposing, sometimes she feels flattered by receiving such a request.

But what about the times when hearing this makes a girl sad and confused, what if the one who's proposing is a dear friend that she likes and cares for, but can never think of him as a husband?

How could she turn his request, and keep their friendship?

I heard about such situations, I even lived one, and from what I saw, the friendship relation is not like before after this, although in many situations of these, the two parts agree that this won't affect their friendship…

My question is: How can you get out of such a situation without loosing a dear friend?

[RiRiRi]

"Would you marry me?"

This is a sentence that usually makes the girl happy, when she knows that someone wants to spend the rest of his life with her…

Even if a girl did not like that man who's proposing, sometimes she feels flattered by receiving such a request.

But what about the times when hearing this makes a girl sad and confused, what if the one who's proposing is a dear friend that she likes and cares for, but can never think of him as a husband?

How could she turn his request, and keep their friendship?

I heard about such situations, I even lived one, and from what I saw, the friendship relation is not like before after this, although in many situations of these, the two parts agree that this won't affect their friendship…

My question is: How can you get out of such a situation without loosing a dear friend?

A very nice question indeed !!!!! (Y)  can I join your club on this ...subhaan'Allah I dont know the answer to this servant of Islam but can say it is very hard .....and I mean very hard to get out of ...for one   things definatly change no dount about that ...from my experience Iam still friends with my friend yet ........the friendship I know for sure has changed so may be inshaa'Allah another sister can help us both out

[Zahhaad]

I do know the answer to this question, although I have never had a proposal rejected because I have never proposed to someone who I expect to reject.

First of all, the friendship won't be the same, and there is no escaping that.

It might take the guy a while to accept the rejection.

Also, these guys should avoid proposing to those from whom they probably expect a rejection. That's if they don't want to get hurt.

I can give more details on this, but at the moment I need to admin.

[Servant of Islam]

, although I have never had a proposal rejected because I have never proposed to someone who I expect to reject.

How confident!:P

First of all, the friendship won't be the same, and there is no escaping that.

It might take the guy a while to accept the rejection.

So this proposal will cause the loss of a very precous freindship, and there's nothing to do about that?

Also, these guys should avoid proposing to those from whom they probably expect a rejection. That's if they don't want to get hurt

Sometimes Zahhad, when it's  really impotant for you, you take the risk, and that's what happens in this case ....

[EVE]

So this proposal will cause the loss of a very precous freindship, and there's nothing to do about that?

I am sorry to tell you dear servant, most of the time it will cause the loss of their friendship, I know many stories about that subject and everytime it is the same end, they were totally separated.  :cry:

[ndya]

I also think in the majority of cases it will go according to the way EVE said .. I mean once you know that a friend is interested in you a different way than you are in them perhaps it makes you look back at the times you spoke to them and laughed with them on certain issues in a different way. In simple terms it may complicate the relationship and the person who declined a proposal may keep wondering to themselves... 'does this person still feel strongly about me...if i say something to them will they take it out of context and misinterpret it?'... the relationship changes i think... but i'm not sure if this is always the case...

[Servant of Islam]

(U)

Sometimes, it's hard to accept something that you don't want i to happens....

[Zahhaad]

Leave the country, make a new start.

[Zahhaad]

Thats what I might do if some best friend of mine proposed to me and I didn't share the same interest. Change of environment to get it out of the mind.

[Zahhaad]

I hear that Slovakia has some nice areas