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Offline BabyG4Eternity

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Figuring out my new life as a muslim women.
« on: Thursday 22 February 2007, 18:43 »
I am in search of advice from fellow women. For months now I have been studying Islam and reading the quran. I have made my choice to convert but I know memorizing and studying is not enough. I come from a family of many different religions and I am the first and only muslim. I'm not really quite sure what to do at this point. A big question I'm asking myself is how do I go about meeting other muslims in my area. I know it will be easier to have friends like me, but I'm also afraid in many ways.  I fear that many will not like me because before I found Islam I made mistakes that are quite obvious, I have 2 children that were born out of wedlock. I fear that others will see this and not accept me, but I deeply love my children and am not ashamed of them.
Another thing I'm concerned about is Islamic dress. I do want to wear hijab, my problem is my family and those around me and how they will feel about this. I do admit that most of the women in my family are feminests and are not going to have good comments. And also, wear do I find hijabs? If I knew I wouldn't be asking. I am going to redo my entire wardrobe and I really need tips for clothing.
All advice will be greatly appreciated. :-)
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Re: Figuring out my new life as a muslim women.
« Reply #1 on: Friday 23 February 2007, 02:09 »
Welcome to TAI :)

in shaa' Allaah we will all try to help you here.

As for converting to Islam, if you have not already, it is by uttering the testification of faith loud enough to hear yourself. To say, "I testify there is only 1 God, and I testify MuHammad is the Messenger of God."

If you are unable to pronounce the Arabic H in MuHammad, then you would substitute the name with Muhammad with the Prophet's other name he was known with: Abul Qaasim (the father of Qaasim). If unable to pronounce the Arabic Q in Qaasim, you would pronounce it as Abul Gaasim, like the g in glasses.

By uttering the testification of faith with the intention of entering Islam, while believing in it, the non-Muslim becomes Muslim - even if there were no witness.

After this, the Muslim is encouraged to learn about the basics of the belief of Muslims. And also how to pray. And other matters which follow this.

in shaa' Allaah here there are such articles.

Is it ok if you tell which country you are in?

I'm in Australia and would be happy to take you to lessons with me if you are in my city.

As for any past mistakes a person made, in Islam the person is not allowed to gossip about a person for sins that person has repented from. So eventhough a person might have committed fornication and even gotten children from that, if they truly repented that is forgiven. And it is known once an original non-Muslim enters Islam all their past sins are forgiven. The act of fornication is the wrong thing, but the children are not blamed. In shaa' Allaah by acquiring the Islamic obligatory knowledge you can strengthen yourself and protect your children.

in shaa' Allaah I will post links for you.

About the Hijaab, a woman needs to cover all the body except the face and hands in front of marriageable men. Personally, I have a lot of pants, long skirts, long sleeve tops, and scarves.

If you can't find any you can buy material.

It would really help if i knew where u were :)

Take care dear and please get back to us.


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Re: Figuring out my new life as a muslim women.
« Reply #2 on: Friday 23 February 2007, 02:23 »
http://talkaboutislam.com/forums/index.php/topic,4770.0.html

Please check this thread from time to time as i will be adding to it.

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Re: Figuring out my new life as a muslim women.
« Reply #3 on: Friday 23 February 2007, 08:21 »

Is it ok if you tell which country you are in?

I'm in Australia and would be happy to take you to lessons with me if you are in my city.

As for any past mistakes a person made, in Islam the person is not allowed to gossip about a person for sins that person has repented from. So eventhough a person might have committed fornication and even gotten children from that, if they truly repented that is forgiven. And it is known once an original non-Muslim enters Islam all their past sins are forgiven. The act of fornication is the wrong thing, but the children are not blamed. In shaa' Allaah by acquiring the Islamic obligatory knowledge you can strengthen yourself and protect your children.

in shaa' Allaah I will post links for you.

About the Hijaab, a woman needs to cover all the body except the face and hands in front of marriageable men. Personally, I have a lot of pants, long skirts, long sleeve tops, and scarves.

If you can't find any you can buy material.

It would really help if i knew where u were :)

Take care dear and please get back to us.
Thank you for welcoming me and for the advice thus far. I have testified my faith outloud. And I have been learning as much as I can so far through books, the Quran, and respected Islamic websites.

I'm actually from the USA just so you know.

And I'm sure I can find most of the clothing easily as soon as I have the money to shop, which may be awhile. But still the hijab might be hard, I guess yes I could get material on my own, but as long as I don't have to sew, because I have no idea how to sew.
Thank you for the advice.

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Re: Figuring out my new life as a muslim women.
« Reply #4 on: Friday 23 February 2007, 14:13 »
maa shaa' Allaah :)

Nice to meet you dear sis.

If you have the program called paltalk, there is an authentic room which opens weekdays in the evening.

That is called II The Light of Islam II, and is under Islam category.

Most of the people there teaching are from the USA, so I guess you would be able to ask them where you can go for live lessons from trustworthy teachers.

As for the Hijaab, I think if you get material, most likely you would need to sew the edge...

but trust me it is an honour to wear Hijaab and not an oppression as some might say.

You are very welcome for the advice and please do ask if you need anything.

 



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