Topic: Working Wives,is It Wrong To Ask Husband To Share Household

[basimah]

if a married woman works a full time job, and her husband is unemployed, should she still have to fulfill all of her household duties? is it unislamic for the husband to be asked to share in household chores that are mostly done by the wife? this is a personal situation because my husband recently lost his job and i work full time. sometimes i am tired when i come home. is it wrong for me to expect my husband to help with dinner? any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

[Sadaf]

Assalam-o-alaikum

I think there is nothing wrong in helping out in some household work for the husband,  :teamwork:

as a matter of fact they are also living in the same house,and getting benefits from here and this is also their house   :ohmygod:

In your situation he should consider that you are playing a role of man who is responsible for taking care of his family  :love:

women are also human like men and get tired like men,they also need some  relaxation like men  :!:  

Husband and wife both are wheels of one family who have to respect and understand each other  :

[sweetwaterfalls]

There are some details with regard to this sister Basimah..

According to ash-Shafi^iyy, it is not obligatory upon the wife to cook

There are other details .. maybe our brothers and sisters can share with us what they know.. :apl1

Yalla ... We are waiting.. :lbw1

[Zahhaad]

You dont have to cook and clean for him and he doesn't have to cook or clean for you.

However, if both refuse to do that, the relationship would often turn sour.

However, it is obligatory on the husband to pay the maintenance of the wife. If he doesn't do this, EVEN if the wife was a millionaire, and he continually refuses, she is able to go to a judge and get the marriage cancelled. On the other hand, it is NOT obligatory on the wife to pay the maintenance of the husband.

[Servant of Islam]

IF A MARRIED WOMAN  WORKS A FULL TIME JOB, AND HER HUSBAND IS UNEMPLOYED, SHOULD SHE STILL HAVE TO FULFILL ALL OF HER HOUSEHOLD DUTIES? IS IT UNISLAMIC FOR THE HUSBAND TO BE ASKED TO SHARE IN HOUSEHOLD CHORES THAT ARE MOSTLY DONE BY THE WIFE? THIS IS A PERSONAL SITUATION BECAUSE MY HUSBAND RECENTLY LOST HIS JOB AND I WORK FULL TIME. SOMETIMES I AM TIRED WHEN I COME HOME. IS IT WRONG FOR ME TO  EXPECT MY HUSBAND TO HELP WITH DINNER?  ANY SUGGESTIONS WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED.

According to Imam Al-Shafi^y basimah, the man is supposed to bring the food to his wife COOKED, but if she cooked it by herself for the sake of Allah, she gets reward.

This shows that the man is supposed to help in some things.

The propeht peace be upon him used to help in cleaning the house, and fixing his clothes by himself, peace be upon him, although he was the greatest man that ever lived, he did that to teach us that men are supposed to be good with their wives, and it's not sthg to be ashamed of if you helped the wife.

:wave2

[Sami Yusuf Islam]

cooked ? ready made that is .......

I think I will be Hanafi from today on ....

[Servant of Islam]

cooked ? ready made that is .......

I think I will be Hanafi from today on ....

Or you're gonna count on delivery boys to eat :mrgreen:

[sabira]

" Islam deenu yusr wa leysa deenu ^usr ", that is to say that islam came to teach us and to facilitate our lives and make order in order to help us have much more time to worship allah.

Our days men and women work side by side and participate in raising their children and bring money the two of them and work outside the 2 of them , then when got back home they have to share the house hold and help each other to have much more time to stay together, discuss their needs together , make plans together , share their children needs together and make their family relationship more solid . if a woman got back home after a long day of work and stress and enters directly to the kitchen to cook, and then make the washing and cleaning and preparing tomorrow food and cloths,... she will be exhausted and have no time to speak to her children, teach them or even play with them, it will be a big lost and every body knows that good mothers make good society .

[Sami Yusuf Islam]

welcome sister sabira to talkaboutislam..... !!!!!


I am very happy to read you here !


and yes you are right, Islam is easy.... and beautiful too


great to read you again.

[EVE]

" Islam deenu yusr wa leysa deenu ^usr ", that is to say that islam came to teach us and to facilitate our lives and make order in order to help us have much more time to worship allah.

Our days men and women work side by side and participate in raising their children and bring money the two of them and work outside the 2 of them , then when got back home they have to share the house hold and help each other to have much more time to stay together, discuss their needs together , make plans together , share their children needs together and make their family relationship more solid . if a woman got back home after a long day of work and stress and enters directly to the kitchen to cook, and then make the washing and cleaning and preparing tomorrow food and cloths,... she will be exhausted and have no time to speak to her children, teach them or even play with them, it will be a big lost and every body knows that good mothers make good society .

Masha Allah I am so happy to have someone like you dear sabira with us in TAI, I agree with you, this is very impressive, may Allah bless you :hearts2