Topic: what is a true friend ???

[Sami Yusuf Islam]

true friend is the person whom you find him beside you when all you know are very fare and leave you>

so how would it be when everyone abandons you .....

[Haleema]

When they abandon you, they would do it for a reason.  I would say the reason that kept them pretending to be friends is gone such as a benefit they were getting, amusement.... However, a true friend wouldn't be asking for anything in return.  He/she would be there for you because they love you.  Even if you did anything wrong, they should advice you.  However, there are cases where you would start a relationship with someone thinking that it might lead to friendship and discover down the road that you cannot be friends, so you would stop right there because if you continue, it will be much more difficult when you stop later on.  They might make many problems when you break the relationship. 

I personally think that you would be very lucky to find a "really good friend".  Are you sure they were friends to begin with?  Many people act as if they are friends and hide their true attributes and feelings in their hearts.  You would be amazed how many people are professional actors, but they don't appear on TV.

[djanabou]

A friend for me is honestly the one who would not spare an advice to give me, and would not think he is bugging me.
one who would be there for me when i need him or her, and would not simply feel like doing something else.
one who would love me for the sake of Allah, not for something I have that he or she needs,
one who would tell me when i am wrong, that i am , and when i am right, that i am, but he would still be kind and gentle in his ways.
one who would encourage me to prepare for the last day, and not be too concerned with material things in this life.
one who would pass his knowledge to me, and accept mine, without feeling I am preaching him.
one who would accept my advice, and take it for granted I have given this advice for the sake of Allah, and would not feel he or she is being bossed around or told what to do

salaam , you just give the right definection of a good friend, im impress with your word's. kept it up. :-o

[djanabou]

so how would it be when everyone abandons you .....

yeh good question , why would they even think of leaving you? i have one thing to say if a friend leave's you he/she dont care about you, does why he/she would choice a different path form yours. hope this make's sense.

[djanabou]

When they abandon you, they would do it for a reason.  I would say the reason that kept them pretending to be friends is gone such as a benefit they were getting, amusement.... However, a true friend wouldn't be asking for anything in return.  He/she would be there for you because they love you.  Even if you did anything wrong, they should advice you.  However, there are cases where you would start a relationship with someone thinking that it might lead to friendship and discover down the road that you cannot be friends, so you would stop right there because if you continue, it will be much more difficult when you stop later on.  They might make many problems when you break the relationship. 

I personally think that you would be very lucky to find a "really good friend".  Are you sure they were friends to begin with?  Many people act as if they are friends and hide their true attributes and feelings in their hearts.  You would be amazed how many people are professional actors, but they don't appear on TV.

salaam sii i agree with you some people do thing's like that, they just act like they your friend but they are only with you for a moment because they lonely, or bored but wait on to that person get's a new friend. they would leave you, they usually just use one another for a moment then later when they dont want to be your friend anymore just make up excess because they dont want to hurt your feeling's . but you should gave people chances , and stay hunble cause not all people abandon there friend . hope this give you some new meaning.just keep making new friend - then you will know those true and whose just playing around for some time  . peace

[djanabou]

You just need to be pateint and look around... You may still not find your true friend, but they exist.

i agree too it will take you some time to find the right one's but dont give up, insha allh you will get a true best friend. have mercy on them and you will get there. :-)

[djanabou]

a true friend doesn't backbite you.. but all people do. A true friend doesn't backstab you but everyone ends up doing so. A true friend remains with you not because he needs u but because he loves u... but mostly people stick with you as long as they need u only... a true friend is a mirage... when you take a step towards it... it takes 10 steps away.. and if he comes knocking at my door.. hehe.. probably i won't be home to open.      

does true most, of my friend just back bite me when i take a step away, those i dont call my friend's and some of my family member's dont accept me just as iam so they try to chance me but it never work so they try to get me into trouble by telling my uncle  and telling him that i dont call nor talk to them when i see them , i think that if they have nothing good to say about me then they need to really say nothing about me . this is why i dont talk to them in the first place because they always have nothing good to say about me , when i talk to them they say i speak like i dont belong in the group in a way , one of my uncle said i act an animal. so i just decided its not worth anything talking to them cause they would never accept me and more i try to fit in the more they insult me so i just dont care anymore they can say whatever they want cause im no longer listening to them. what type of family member are they? i gave them no permissino to talk to me like that? now they are still trying to make me like they are  :roll:its shoking to see things like that some out of my family member's . they are not nice to me . when they see me they act nice but whem i take a step they start saying bad things
about me and later my other auntie tells me . can you believe that. :-o

[djanabou]

Assalaamu 3alaykum ya A7bab!!!
i wont to join too to this friendship conversation.......
ok???
my really really really best friends now days is my grandmother  
you know why?? she hasnt been never hard to me.... she is always kind.... and i like to talk to her........ i have other friends too but they are not like best friends..... i dont see them always and they dont call me, if i call them they have always something else to do.... never time to play with me :S but they are friendly, thats good i think they dont mean that but Al7amdulillah anyway, its better if they dont see you for long time, then they start to miss you      

.... ofcourse my brothers and sisters in islam are too my very good friends   !!!!

i think that you should make more friends so when one is busy you can play with the other, if all are busy and you need to be patient and wait for them cause you seem to have really good friends so dont leave them.

[djanabou]

i dont know how long it took you to write this but im loving it. :-D