Topic: Marriage

[kenyasumi]

As Salaam Alaikum

Optimiste,

I've been muslim over a year and I am still learning about my religion.  I rently got married.  I read alot alot of books on islamic marriages before and I'm still reading them.  Every relationship is different, My husband and I have a wonderful relationship because we both respect one another.  I don't raise my voice to him and he doesn't raise his to me.  I truly believe if you want Allah's blessings you must obey your husband.  The only thing that comes before my husband is ALLAH.  So I do my best to obey and make sure my husband is pleased with me not because it's my duty but because I truly want the rewards from ALLAH.


SHALL I TELL YOU OF YOUR WOMEN WHO EARN PARADISE? SHE IS THE TENDER LOVING AND FERTILE WOMAN WHO IF SHE GETS ANGRY OR IS MISTREATED, OR MAKES HER HUSBAND ANGRY, SAYS: THIS IS MY HAND IN YOUR HAND I WILL NOT SLEEP UNTIL YOU ARE PLEASED.

A WOMAN WHO DIES, LEAVING HER HUSBAND CONTENT WITH HER, WILL ENTER PARADISE.

[Sami Yusuf Islam]

subhana Allah

Why are not all wives as kind to their husbands as they should

sister Kenyasumi.....

does your husband tell you how happy he is to be your husband

[Servant of Islam]

ma shaa Allah!!

Dear sister  :ulv1

 I'm happy to know that u r this happy with ur husband, this shows that safety and happiness is found in obeying Allah's orders and not in disobeying Him.

I wish all of our Muslim sisters these days thought in the same way; that they always obey Allah, we could avoid many problems if they did.

[waelaziz]

Barak AllAH feek dear kenyasumi


The Islam marriage   is a legal, binding contract between a man and a woman which establishes the licitness, permanence and responsibleness of their relationship, an acceptance of one another as spouses with a mutual commitment to live together according to the teachings of Islam. :bh1  Both are to be mindful of their duty to ALLAH  and their responsibilities to one another in all aspects of their interaction.
The wife is her husband's companion and helpmate, who is, together with him, responsible for the affairs of the household, the physical and emotional well-being of its members, and the training of the children. She should obey her husband unless he asks her to disobey Allah  in which case she must not obey him
Again and again ALLAH bless you my sister :sis1

[ABDU]

As Salaam Alaikum

  So I do my best to obey and make sure my husband is pleased with me not because it's my duty but because I truly want the rewards from ALLAH.


 

Wa ^alaykum essalam sister kenyasumi, your post touched my heart deeply, masha Allah may Allah bless you and reward you, I would like to add that a wife’s obedience and submission to her husband reflects on the love, admiration and affection in their relationship, as well as her piety. The strong and confident wife can continue to be a pleasing, desirable, obedient and caring wife whilst preserving her dignity and self- respect. Hence, since there are guidelines which outline the gracious treatment expected from husbands to their wives, likewise there are guidelines which outline the gracious treatment expected from wives to their husbands. How could the wife in her right mind deny her husband a blissful relationship on her part after she considers the many virtues he has offered her.

thanks sister kenyasumi for joining us to this blessed forum, you are most welcome

My regards to you  :bro1



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[Crow]

Youre saying a woman should put up with being mistreated??? :hmm  :hmm  :hmm

If men are not to put up with being mistreated by their wives, shouldn't it be equal with women by their husbands? After all, men and women are equal.

[ABDU]

I did not understand what you meant crow, but in Islam a husband should be his best and improve on himself because Prophet Muhammad Salla Allahu ^alayhi wa sallam said what means: "The best of you are those who treat their wives the best, and I am the best to my wives.

these are the wise words of the best of all creation .

[Crow]

I read the origional post, and she quoted: "Shall I tell you of your women who earn paradise? She is the tender, loving and fertile woman who, if she gets angry or is mistreated, or makes her husband angry, says" This is my hand in your hand and I will not sleep until you are pleased"

This seems to encourage women to put up with mistreatment. I realise that a man, in Islam, is told to be kind to his wife. But what if he happens to not be so kind? Why should a woman be encouraged to put up with it? I'm not talking about a lover's quarrel, I'm talking about abuse (mistreatment). If it is that serious, I think she has a right to stand up for herself, or, seek a divorce, as it would seem better than a life with an abusive husband (If he was unwilling to change, which is usually the case)

[Crow]

And yes, I read that quote from our Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessing be upon him . :s1  If only more men would listen to him.. :notme








-do not abreviate words like ''pbuh''  say it all: peace and blessing be upon him .

-and when saying ''sobahanahou wa ta'ala  its better to spell it out not to use abreviation such as ''swt'' .

                                  and crow, you are contributing and doing a very good job in TAI! . :bh1  

[kenyasumi]

As Salaam Alaikum

Crow,

I never implied or tried to imply that woman should take abuse.  Nor should men.  I don't think anyone should abuse anyone.  My whole point was my opinion on how a wife should be with her husband....  I do apologize if I  gave you the wrong impression...  Also this is just my opinion not everyone has to agree with it....


THE SPIRIT OF AN ISLAMIC MARRIAGE IS ONE OF HUSBAND AND WIFE TRYING TO GENTLY PULL EACH OTHER INTO PARADISE...

MARRIAGE IS NOT A LICENSE FOR A MAN OR WOMAN TO UNLEASH THEIR NAFS ON THEIR SPOUSE......


IF YOU CAN BEHAVE PROPERLY TOWARD OTHER PEOPLE, THEN YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO BEHAVE YOUR BEST TOWARD YOUR PARTNER..