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A cry for a sigh
« on: Sunday 09 December 2001, 15:51 »
;)Good morning and may Allah's blessings be upon every reader of this post :)
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Well if it's not morning for you it certainly rises into the virgin sun of an early morning for me, when i come in here to greet my beautiful friends ;)

Please make yourself at home, get comfortable and take a seat on one of my cushioned sofa's. Can u smell the aroma of misk and safron in this forum that is lined with the the velvet of true faith and knowledge???  :cool:

Lets get to know each other and in doing that lets talk about a common question on everyones mind. Hhmmm. what is that question ??? Jesus i seem to have forgotten the question myself !!!:eek:  

You see!! that's what life does to you. It makes u forget things
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Subhan allah. Jallan man-laa yansa....Exalted is He (Allah) who does not forget. The funny thing is that, our name in Arabic is connected to the attribute of forgetting. Al-Insan is named as such because we are attributed with annisyaan (forgetfulness).

Well that's who we are and thats life i suppose ???!!!!!!
Is that what life is all about?? forgetting ?? No i think its more than that !!       Hmmmm......what is life???

Interesting question, dont u agree????

Different people will tell u differnt things about it. For some it's great, for others it's not. For some it's just torment,yet for others it's a playground of pleasure,, fantasy and a whole lot of other leisure.

Many will start by saying,,,,,,"well, it all depends, really....." and stop at that. OK well depends on what??? Lets examine the different "depends" first.

Does it depend on if your married? divorced? never been married? married with children? married without children? married/ children/ jobless? rich? an exeutive? a blue collar worker passing bricks and morter? a sleaky, sly, charming lawyer with lot of good looks and a row of clients waiting at the door? what about age!!! does it have anything to do with how you look at life or answer that question???

I'd say yes to aaaaaaaaaaaaallllll lllllllllllllllllll ll the above. BUT an answer that is common to the different stages, phases, levels and backgrounds of man's existance has to do with  FAITH,,,YES FAITH

Our COMMON answer to this :mind boggling question depends, not just on whether we are muslims or not, but also to the degree of our faith in Allah. How pious we are dictates how we see life. Does it not???    

Whats life to you?????? i know what it is to me ;)  Yep i sure do. But i'm not telling you my secrets until you tell me some of yours first.;)

Read you soon i'm sure (insha' allah):cool:

And remember to have your self a sweet time in this aromatized lounge open for your comfort and intellectual growth.

Best wishes
Sweetheart

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Well, you came up with a very very interesting question :)
« Reply #1 on: Sunday 09 December 2001, 17:21 »
First of all, assalamou 3alaykom.

Life does really depends on a lot of things, and yes the biggest thing is faith (and of course the degree of our faith).

Life for me is something hard to explain, it's like a game we're playing, we should work very very hard to win. We do everything we can to be happy at then end. Troubles might face you, you will pass through a lot of changes, but in the same time you also face a lot of good things in life.

There are a lot of good things in life, that we should all thank God for. Of course we should thank God for everything we have, and never complain. No matter how bad you think life is, patience is the solution.

For example me, I wake up everyday, and I am ready for anything, if something bad happenes, nothing I can do, the only thing that makes me feel better is the patience, when you be patient, insha^Allah you will gain rewards. If you think like this when you face a problem, trust me it will be a lot easier to handle it, it just make you feel better.

This is one part of what life is for me :)
now let's see what life is for you sweetheart :)
You are really a sweetheart[/u]

wish u the best

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Tooba limun 3amila lima ba3dal-mawt
« Reply #2 on: Monday 24 December 2001, 10:34 »
Assalamu alaykum my dear sister True Muslim

I enjoy reading your posts very much and some times they are so good that i read them twice. May i ask you though to excuse me for not responding to this post as fast as you expected. I really got held up in other things but this was on my mind too.:a1

Yes life is what you mentioned above. And that is just one if its many aspects, many pages, many leafs. :hlp1 :hlp1

Life means different things at different times for diffeent people. All may be correct, yet all may be wrong too.

While i was taking my time to talk about the meaning of life for me, i was thinking about its many pages and which one of those pages would be the most substantial, significant and memorable for our readers to ponder over. Subhan allah as i was about to write on one incident that happened to me recently, another experience hit me by surprise just tonight and i thought to myself, "This is it". I sat infront of my pc and typed away till dawn.

The answer to the question, you'll find at the end of this heart stopping true story of tonight. Please read it carefully and slowly.
:(  (U)

And she stood like an iceberg looking down at her fifteen-year-old son, saying to him, “You didn’t even say good bye”.

They were eleven boys and a girl. A family of love and care. A family that made the inspirational bond of the Brady bunch look like scattered sultanas. A family that made the heart felt compassion and devotion of “the Waltons” look like a breaking branch and the appealing patience and sacrifice of “little house on the Prairie” look like a common indulgence. This is a family of true love, sacrifice, support, sincerity, bond and patience for one another glued together by the power of true faith in Allah subhanahu wa ta3ala and their obedience to the Quran and sunnah.

A typical day for the mother would include washing, cleaning, cooking, and happily straightening the half fixed beds and tidying the semi tidied rooms the boys had left behind after going to school. There’s no time for much else since between the walks around the house, the mum had infants to feed and toddlers to potty train and rescue from drowning into the washing machine they climbed in to discover.

The father meanwhile would be busy taking the boys to school, doing the grocery and other shopping and all outwardly chores in addition to his paid job. At night the family meet for dinner. Masha’ Allah all 16 wrap around the dinning table serving each other from the feast of food their proud mother had prepared. The live-in grandparents sit at the dinning table to watch the next generation of fruits ripen before them and remember their early years as young parents themselves.

Slowly but surely the boys are growing. The eldest is now a first year university student, the second is fast approaching university and the third Raami was studying hard with private tutors to gain a better score in his year ten school certificate this year. Ramadan arrived and Raami was still stuck in his books in his room studying hard. When he wasn’t studying his parents new very well that, the beautiful recitation of the quran coming from the room up stairs wasn’t a CD. It was Raami practicing to be a reciter of the quran and a preacher of guidance. That’s all he did. That’s all he ever thought about. No girls, no computer games, no sports car magazines, no Friday night’s out. There was no time to waste on this world, and he probably felt it coming all along.

The seventeenth of December 2001 was the day he graduated from year ten and his school certificate mark reflected the hard work he did. The sun couldn’t shine bright enough that day as the family rejoiced Raami’s achievements with hugs and kisses. And on the twenty fourth of December his family were hugging him again. The last hug, the last feel of his flesh, the last look into his closed eyes, the last.

Raami prayed the 3isha’ prayer and went to sleep at midnight in the same bed snuggled with his 4 year old brother by his side. At 1:30am his parents were called to the room by one of the brothers who heard Raami choking and gargling in bed. Paramedics couldn’t revive him at home. His neck was becoming darker as his mother and father looked on helplessly. The choke was increasing. The gargle was tightening and Raami lay with flat limbs and rolled eyes. “Ya mama, :cwt Ya habibi, :cwt Ya Raami. Ya Rabbi dakheelak. :cwt Al-Gawth Ya Allah”, were the only words the frustrated mother could say as she looked at her weakening son dim before her eyes. The ambulance took him to hospital for further rescue attempts. By 2am on 24th (just 26 hrs ago) it was determined that Raami may have suffered a major heart attack, at the age of 15 and a school certificate in his pocket. Ra7imahu Allah.

His mother came home escorted by the many friends and family who had rushed out of their beds to the news. But of course she was alone. Alone in her emptiness. Alone as she ran up the stairs into Raami’s room, threw herself on his bed grabbing his clothes that he hadn’t put away after wearing his PJ’s and while hugging his sweat moistened pillow, she cried and cried and cried with an aakkhhh to catch her breath. “Ya mama, Ya habibi, Ya Raami”. After gaining consciousness from a light faint, she was supported into the car to see her son in his last bath and final change of clothes.

She looked at him in that ice cold room where they wash the dead. Lying on that cold metal panel his face was no longer patched with the blue that chocked him. Raami had a calm pale face as his mother looked at his dark lashes that sealed his green eyes. The eyes she would never see open again. She stroked his wet dark hair and talked to him as if waiting for a very last response. “Why didn’t you tell me you were leaving? You’re gone and you didn’t say a word. But you should’ve at least said something. You left me by surprise ya Mama, why this way? There’s so much we could’ve done. There’s so much waiting. I was making your favourite meal today, roast chicken!! You like that. Ya Raami Ya habibi” and she stroked his forehead. Her tears started to build in her eyelids as she tried desperately to keep them in. One dropped on Raami’s face. She wiped it off and with another sighfull “aaakkkhhh“ she caught her breath realising that her son had spoken for the very last time when he said "goodnight" to her at midnight before he snuggled up with his young brother to sleep. :cwt :cwt

   
LIFE????? Nothing but a passage way to the hereafter. A prison for the beleiver-- a paradise for the non-beleiver.

What does this reader thinK??:rolleyes:

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Oh!!! I forgot my question
« Reply #3 on: Monday 24 December 2001, 12:56 »
assalamou 3alaykom my dear sweetheart :lvlv1


First of all, if you know the person who died, I can tell you one thing: 3athamallahou ajrakom. :bsf :cwt :bsf :cwt :ebs1


You really touched my feelings, Wallah I am like this :cwt crying, for the mother, because I have seen something like this before, and crying for myself, God knows when we leave this life. Are we ready?? :rolleyes:  This should make everyone to think again, are you ready to die? did you work as hard as you suppose to?? :lo1

Barakallahou feeky my sweet sweetheart, it's a very good and touching reminder, no one knows when our time will come, and we leave this life.:confused:

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LIFE????? Nothing but a passage way to the hereafter. A prison for the beleiver-- a paradise for the non-beleiver.


I agree with you my dear that life is a "paradise" in the eyes of the non-believer, but it's not a prison for the believer! The believer who is totally convinced with what he does, doesn't feel it's a prision, he finds his joy, calm, rest in what he does ;) it will be the "paradise" in his eyes, perhaps prosion in others' eyes, but when we know what we're doing, who cares what others say??


May God bless you sister sweetheart :bh1  :ulv1  :lvlv1  :smlv

:bh1  Best wishes :bh1

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Shakar allahu sa3yakom
« Reply #4 on: Monday 24 December 2001, 15:36 »
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assalamou 3alaykom my dear sweetheart :lvlv1 [/B]


wa alaykum assalam dear True Muslim


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First of all, if you know the person who died, I can tell you one thing: 3athamallahou ajrakom. :bsf :cwt :bsf :cwt :ebs1


Yes True Muslim, they are my dearest friends. The parents are the role models for many as are the children. I've known Raami since he was 7 years old. Bismillahi 3alayki, ra7imahu allah.

You really touched my feelings, Wallah I am like this :cwt crying, for the mother,

THe mother!!! Bismillahi 3alayha, Allah has endowed her with the patience that comes with true faith. Instead of crying and tearing her hair out, she stood and gathered other women to pray and make du3a2 for him knowing that it is the most benenficial.

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True Muslim wrote and crying for myself, God knows when we leave this life. Are we ready?? :rolleyes:


That's the question. Are we ready?. With this i remember the saying of Master Ali..."irta7alat addunya wa hiya mudbira, warta7alat al-aakhira wa hiya muqbila, fakounou min abdaa2 al-aakhira wala takounou min abnaa2 addunya. Al-yawmul 3amal wala 7isab wa ghadan al-7isabu wala 3amal".

And the saying, "Haasibu anfusakum qabla an tu7aasabu" that way we can rectify ourself with people and what we wronged our self by as well.
 
This should make everyone think again. Are you ready to die? did you work as hard as you're suppose to?? :lo1

True Muslim, sometimes we forget, we forget that death is closer than we want it to be. Its a good sign for the faithful if such an example of others serves to remind us to press those breaks a little.. "its like saying to yourself "hey where am i? what am i doing?" I suppose that's the purpose and wisdom of the saying of prophet Muhamad related by At-Tirrmithiy: "Akthiru min thikri haadimillathaat". Meaning to often mention the one thing that disciplines our desires,,,'death'.

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True Muslim wrote Barakallahou feeky my sweet sweetheart, it's a very good and touching reminder,


Ameen wa feeki dear sister. We will remind one another of what s good insha' allah. THis is in our deep love for each other. None other. :bh1


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True Muslim wrote I agree with you my dear that life is a "paradise" in the eyes of the non-believer, but it's not a prison for the believer!


Dear sister you must beleive and trust in that "addonya sughnaal-mu2min wa jannat al-kaafer" because it is hadith of teh prophet related by Ibn Hibban.
 
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True Muslim wrote The believer who is totally convinced with what he does, doesn't feel it's a prision, he finds his joy, calm, rest in what he does ;) it will be the "paradise" in his eyes.


I know what your trying to say. And i will return to that in a thorough way insha' allah soon. It relates to what we spoke about in the thread  'follow your heart' in the "Road to success" forum (check it out).

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True Muslim wrote May God bless you sister sweetheart :bh1  :ulv1  :lvlv1  :smlv


Barak allahu feeki my darling darling True Muslim sister.

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True Muslim wrote :bh1  Best wishes :bh1

To you too. And always remember to keep smiling and hide the pain.:lvlv1

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Oh!!! I forgot my question
« Reply #5 on: Monday 24 December 2001, 17:20 »
Barakallahou feeky for everything :bl1


You are right about the Hadith, and I think you knew what I meant :lbw1


Please take care of yourself


Best wishes :ho1

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Oh!!! I forgot my question
« Reply #6 on: Wednesday 02 January 2002, 12:06 »
Assalamu 3alykum my dear beloved sisters :lvlv1
masha'allaah your posts and your replys are very insightful and heartful :)

I was so touched with what sweetheart wrote sub7anallaah it brought a tear to my eye and i was thinking about the story for a while..

The only truth we are sure of 100% in this life is that we will die one day and the wise is the one who works towards this moment and prepares for what comes after..It is a trip that needs Iman, hard work, preparation, patience, strength and a strong well power...

7abibti sweetheart I wanted to ask you if I can translate the story you wrote to arabic and post it in SAFEENA (friends safeena)..This conversation is very inspiring and thoughtful and I thought that It will be nice if we share it with our dear brothers and sisters in SAFEENA..What do you guys think? :hmp1

love  :ulv1
your sister noor ;)

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Welcome back Noor
« Reply #7 on: Wednesday 02 January 2002, 16:28 »
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Assalamu 3alykum my dear beloved sisters :lvlv1
masha'allaah your posts and your replys are very insightful and heartful :)


Barak allahu feeki sis Noor and once again a big welcome from US here in TAI. WHere have u been hiding you beauty.???

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I was so touched with what sweetheart wrote sub7anallaah it brought a tear to my eye and i was thinking about the story for a while..


I really didn't mean to make you cry but some tears in life are worth shedding and sharing.

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Originally posted by noor It is a trip that needs Iman, hard work, preparation, patience, strength and a strong will power...


The prophet reminds us: Mun araada ayyuza7za7a 3aninnaar wayudkhalil-jannah fal-ta2tihi maniyatuhu wa huwa yu2minu billahi wal-yawmil-aakhir wal ya2ti illannaasi bima yu7ibu ayyu2ta illayh

This hadith encompases so much for those who comprehend. It holds the basis for belief and deelings.


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Originally posted by noor 7abibti sweetheart I wanted to ask you if I can translate the story you wrote to arabic and post it in SAFEENA (friends safeena)..


Ya 7obbi Noor, You are welcome to do with it what ever serves this religion. It would please me greatly to know that others may benefit from it. Thankyou for your courtesy in asking. :ho1

Now i leave you with a prayer of Salam to all readers reminding you that a smile with the right intention is an act of worship.

SO keep smiling and let the Sun Shine. :ho1

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The Death of my 15 yr old bro....
« Reply #8 on: Sunday 06 January 2002, 15:18 »
Assalamu ^alaykum my dear brothers and sisters in islam...

I would like to take this opportunity to thank my sister sweetheart for the breath taking words she wrote about my dear brother and family...
May God reward you for a great deed, and may you join my brother in the high heavens and drink from 7awd of the prophet in the hereafter....

Im new to this site, i don't know where to post things, so i posted this twice in different places....

This something i wrote about my 15 year old brother know in sweethearts story as Raami..

Osman....

A name in which i may no longer scream out from one room to another, a name in which i may no longer mock and make fun off during dispute with my bro osman, i sooo much feel like wanting to scream his name out for the last time, pretending he still lives, in some corner at home, watching T.V or playing nintendo 64, studying hard or snuggled up in bed, Praying or reciting Quran, keeping his young brothers and sister company with little infant games, or making them laugh with that funny face he made, and sounds that made my little year old brother yusif and only sister shayma choke with laughter.

Osman was so innocent and shy, extremely shy, sometimes he would blush from me, his eldest brother, little did he ask from any of us, he was soo much to himself and did so little to annoy us. He's a person in which would give up what he wanted and loved in order to make someone dear to him like his family happy, ohh how much i miss that teenage face i saw first thing at sunrise and last thing before i laid in bed asleep...yes we shared the same bedroom together, he was my companion, for so many years we slept in the same room, close to never did we ever argue, sometimes it felt like i was in my room alone........

God give me patience, for it is not easy losing someone you dearly love and share the same flesh, blood and name as yourself....

Osman is one who laughed freely and easily, who spoke of minor intimacies and common grounds, who made me and those who cared for him feel strangely liked and valued.

Like i said we shared the same room , this has meant much of my life centered around the times we spent together. Our bedroom was a room which witnessed joy, love and day-to-day experiences, birthdays, celebrations, sadness and all, allowing my bro in developing to trust me with secrets hidden, confiding what he liked and hated. We talked and laughed and as time passed by, we grew more and more dependent upon each others smile.

Me and Osman are sometimes very different regardless being brothers, and yet sometimes so much the same, however our differences in a way merge with our similarities, giving rise to something special and unique.... Friendship! a feeling which most brothers aren't lucky enough to share and experience with each other, in an age where love between some families has some what eradicated when compared to the love shared in families in the pages of history

We talked and laughed, cried , slept and ate together, we talked of all things so much i often lost count, I value most the way we talked about any thing any time any where. And each time I listened to him, each time I pondered what he said, I learn something new. About him. About me. About the world. I've learned to trust in his instincts. I love the vitality and zest that is so much a part of him. He truly was a gift, a gift to me, his family, friends and the world... however this horrible world doesn't deserve his beauty and presence, he deserves to live in a world far beautiful than this, a world in which Adam and Eve had descendant from, written a world where our Lord has said

"And their recompense shall be Paradise, and silken garments, because they were patient.

Reclining therein on raised thrones, they will see there neither the excessive heat of the sun, nor the excessive bitter cold,

And the shade thereof is close upon them, and the bunches of fruit thereof will hang low within their reach.

And amongst them will be passed round vessels of silver and cups of crystal,

Crystal-clear, made of silver. They will determine the measure thereof according to their wishes."

" And round about them will (serve) boys of everlasting youth. If you see them, you would think them scattered pearls.

And when you look there (in Paradise), you will see a delight (that cannot be imagined), and a great dominion.

Their garments will be of fine green silk, and gold embroidery. They will be adorned with bracelets of silver, and their Lord will give them a pure drink.

(And it will be said to them): "Verily, this is a reward for you, and your endeavor has been accepted "

How beautiful a life exists promised to those who do Good and Belive Correctly, may he be amongst those who were promised such a life and may we muslims join him in the hereafter...

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Oh!!! I forgot my question
« Reply #9 on: Sunday 06 January 2002, 17:19 »
Assalamou Alaykom :ho1

First, let me welcome you here, it's a pleasure for us to see you here and there posting :apl1 May Allah bless you my dear brother and give you patience.

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How beautiful a life exists promised to those who do Good and Belive Correctly, may he be amongst those who were promised such a life and may we muslims join him in the hereafter...


Ameen Ameen.


The first time I read our beloved sister Sweetheart's words about your brother, I couldn't stop my tears :cwt even though, I don't really know him, soubhanallah.

Today, after what you wrote, I feel that I really know that person :cwt  soubhanallah, it's hard to loose someone you love.

But I don't want you to be sad, everyone is going to die, it should be a lesson for everyone! We should work hard on oursleves, and be prepared to the day where no money, and no kids can help. We should always ask oursleves, everyday "am I ready?" if not, then look why you feel you are not, and work on that.

My dear friend, you are very welcome here
Look around, check the other lounges
and post, don't be :$ or anything, we are a family here

Looking forward to read you :bg
Please don't make me wait too long (Y)

BEST wishes :smlv

 



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