Topic: The 1st post by the Captain

[Baroness]

friends.....

One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, "Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd." I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on. As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him. He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes. My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him and as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye. As I handed him his glasses, I said, "Those guys are jerks. They really should get lives." He looked at me and said, "Hey thanks!" There was a big smile on his face. It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude. I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before. He said he had gone to private school before now. I would have never hung out with a private school kid before.

We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books. He turned out to be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play a little football with my friends. He said yes. We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him. Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again. I stopped him and said, "Boy, you are going to really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!" He just laughed and handed me half the books. Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were seniors, we began to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown, and I was going to Duke. I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem. He was going to be a doctor, and I was going for business on a football scholarship. Kyle was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the time about being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for graduation. I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak. Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him. Boy, sometimes I was jealous.

Today was one of those days. I could see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the back and said, "Hey, big guy, you'll be great!" He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled." Thanks," he said. As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began. "Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but mostly your friends. I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give him. I am going to tell you a story."

I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the first day we met.

""He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. ""!!!!!

He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile." Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable." I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment. I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did I realize its depth. Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you can change a person's life. For better or for worse.

Written by the Captain in Safeena. Moved by Baroness

[Baroness]

Sanyorita wrote....

Yes indeed
. the right person at the right time can make all the difference.
Thats very true


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[Baroness]

With a wink  and a smile the Captain replied....

"personal and first hand experience"



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[Baroness]

The Sanyorita came back with this reply.......

"Subhan Allah
Captain if u mean that this story actualy happened to u and that u were your friend's life saver....then let me tell u that some people like yourself really do have beauty within them. And this beauty shines when despair calls for it.
May allah always enable you to save lives and this can be done by also saving a blasphemous soul by turning it into a believer.
Barak allahu feek

"FRIEND' IS A POWERFUL WORD THAT ONLY FEW KNOW THE TRUE MEANING OF AND HOW PURE AND UNSELFISH IT REALLY IS.I guess thats why true frindes are hard to come by these days.. Not so???

Have u heard the saying " for every friend you gain, u get a thousand enemies??"



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[Baroness]

I posted the following reply and...qad uqaal....the ground cracked.:eek:


assalamu alayku
YEs indeed ya Sanyorita, your comments , like the story told by the captain , are very touching and very true.
 

a person may have many people around him/her but still not one may be a friend. what is a friend or who is a friend? i ask the Captain to answer this for me??? DO u sometimes feel at a loss about the definition of this word??? Subhan allah. Is a wife a friend? or is a husband aa friend ? or a sister, a brother, a cousin, aunt or uncle. are any of them inherently friends??? If yes...how??? and if no.....why??

 

Just to seal it with a tear....the picture of a true friend is one i watched in a film once....without aiming to promote Hollywood, but it was called 'BEACHES' the leading song was 'the wind beneath my wings' Two girls grew up together coming from different backgrounds and having different aims. One became famous ( and she ws the less attractive) the other --more mature, less selfish and more educated-- stayed in her shadow till her mid age when she was diagnozed with cancer and learnt that she would not live long. The then famous of the two woke up at that time to realize that she had put her friend in her shadow all these years, when in fact she was her strength---the powerful force that she had been borrowing from to suceed and become famous. SHe then stood and sang a song of recognition to her 'friend' in it she says --"YOUR ARE THE WIND BENEATH MY WINGS"
Subhan Allah it has always touched me . Are there such people that can give so much and leave silently without asking for anything in return???
I guess i may have answered my question...friendsh ip is about recognition and sacrifice..What do u think Captain???
If only there was a face with a falling tear (among those faces)

[Baroness]

The Captain answers Sanyorita first, saying ......

: Subhan Allah

essalamou 3alaykom sister Sanyorita,
thank you for the complements and may Allah reward you.


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الرسالة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة Sanyorita "FRIEND' IS A POWERFUL WORD THAT ONLY FEW KNOW THE TRUE MEANING OF AND HOW PURE AND UNSELFISH IT REALLY IS.
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I perfectly agree sister... unforunately


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Well the Captain came in with an earth shattering reply to my previous post. He said..........


essalamou 3alaykom sister Baroness,
thank you for the complements and may Allah reward you.

what is a friend or who is a friend? i ask the Captain to answer this for me???

A friend for me is honestly the one who would not spare an advice to give me, and would not think he is bugging me.
one who would be there for me when i need him or her, and would not simply feel like doing something else.
one who would love me for the sake of Allah, not for something I have that he or she needs,
one who would tell me when i am wrong, that i am , and when i am right, that i am, but he would still be kind and gentle in his ways.
one who would encourage me to prepare for the last day, and not be too concerned with material things in this life.
one who would pass his knowledge to me, and accept mine, without feeling I am preaching him.
one who would accept my advice, and take it for granted I have given this advice for the sake of Allah, and would not feel he or she is being bossed around or told what to do.
 

DO u sometimes feel at a loss about the definition of this word???

I used to, but now I know what love is and what true friendship is and I am confident of this.....

Subhan allah. Is a wife a friend? or is a husband a friend ? or a sister, a brother, a cousin, aunt or uncle. are any of them inherently friends???

Not necessarily, but he or she could be.. that is , a wife or a husband, an aunt or an uncle is NOT inherently a friend... but any one of those could be your friend.

If yes...how??? and if no.....why??
because friendship has simply nothing to do with our blood or law parenthood...
one of my brothers is a TRUE friend of mine, another one is not. but he is my brother.....
in islam, you have duties towards your family ....  but there is nothing that obliges you to go back to your family when you need an advice  or somebody to ask to share your thinking on a subject, just to name an example. I go for advice seeking, for sharing my mind over an issue, to those friends I think are best for advising me or sharing my mind on that issue.
 

Just to seal it with a tear....

"YOUR ARE THE WIND BENEATH MY WINGS"

 

very touchy story, sub7anallah.


I guess i may have answered my question...friendsh ip is about recognition and sacrifice..What do u think Captain???

.I agree...
If only there was a face with a falling tear (among those faces)

.we too when we read your words..




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[Baroness]

Barak Allahu feek Ya akhil-mu7taram

Assalamu alaykum and a especial salute to the Captain.

i am speechless to your thorough responce. It is clear that you spent time in reading my post. Your responce was nothing less than thoughtfull and true. In many cases you took the words right out of my mouth and i couldn't have said what you said better than that.
i have always believed in friendship as something pure and sincere, something that is rare and something that not many would understand the essence of.

It is so rare, pure and misunderstood to a degree that it almost has no place between the prejudice of spouses in a marriage, or the prejudice of two associates in a path, or the prejudice even among siblings in some cases.
But thanks to your re-assurances, there is still hope in this world for true friendship to exist. Thanks to your pure understanding of the concept.
May i add to your description that friends are those who dont judge negatively on the other.
Subhan Allah as i write this thought, the logic of Islam comes to mind. Isn't it the case that a Muslim is obligated to adhere to his brother/sister in Islam no less than 73 reasons for apparent misbehaviour. ??
Dear Captain, what we have discussed is in the essence of Islamic conduct. It is in the essence of hussnul-khuluq and that a muslim is harsh on the non-believer yet humble and merciful to his own kind.
In arabic it reads: Ashudaa2 3alal-kufaar, Ru7amaa2 baynahum.
Clearly, Islam preaches friendship in the name of brotherhood.

It would please me greatly to read any further comments you may have to add.
Sadad- Allahu khutaq ya nabeel, Ya Captain
May the glory of faith always be the wind beneath your wings

From Your servant with prayers of goodness



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THE BARONESS
At the mercy of Allah

[Baroness]

The Captain was very noble in his reply to mine. Read it for yourself. He wrote.........


Assalamu alaykum and a especial salute to the Captain.

may Allah reward you for that, wa 3alaykom essalam.

i am speechless to your thorough responce. It is clear that you spent time in reading my post.

.I spend time in reading everything I would like to reply to, sister. Your post was a particularly remarkable one.

Your responce was nothing less than thoughtfull and true. In many cases you took the words right out of my mouth and i couldn't have said what you said better than that.

.that is very flattering, may Allah grand you and me sincerity in our good deeds.

i have always believed in friendship as something pure and sincere, something that is rare and something that not many would understand the essence of.

.unfortunately yes, something that many would not understand the essence of, because we mostly have become too materialistic ....

It is so rare, pure and misunderstood to a degree that it almost has no place between the prejudice of spouses in a marriage, or the prejudice of two associates in a path, or the prejudice even among siblings in some cases.

.sub7anallah, it is alarming to consider the big number of siblings whom I know that would be rather descirbed as ennemies than friends, because of their behavior..

But thanks to your re-assurances, there is still hope in this world for true friendship to exist.

. may Allah reward you, great people like you who understand the true meaning of friendship are the torch of light thatilluminates our pathways.

Subhan Allah as i write this thought, the logic of Islam comes to mind. Isn't it the case that a Muslim is obligated to adhere to his brother/sister in Islam no less than 73 reasons for apparent misbehaviour. ??

. yes it is, now, how many of us do put this into practice ?? very few.

In arabic it reads: Ashudaa2 3alal-kufaar, Ru7amaa2 baynahum.

.it rather reads, if i may correct, ashiddaa2u.

.may Allah accept our prayers and our good deeds, and may He allow us to endeavour behind His Prophet for the good of this nation.

your humble servant.

da captin

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[Baroness]

Interests began to spark and our readers increased as did their responces. The safeena began to move!!! Read > Sanyorita's reply...

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WOW You guys are really talking !!!!

Assalamu alaykom to u both,,,Da Captain and (De) The Baroness  

The exchange in opinons that u guys obviously enjoyed up there is also a way for lots of people to learn the good manners and how 2 people can actually say whats on their mind without feeling threatened or holding back .

Frankly Da Captain talks knowledge and logic and The Baroness....well... your wisdom is obvious.
You asked the right questions which shows your depth in thought and deep ponder on life. As for The Captain....well.... in a nutshell..he is very particular.

I seriously enjoyed reading you both and learnt something on the way. I would expect the frinedship that u both talked about will last till death...if found !! Yes in fact..if found. My Captain...your precision will surely keep this ship afloat and insha' allah will land all its passengers on the Judiy of success.

With the colour of honesty from my heart,,,i ask u both to keep up
such fulfilling dicussions. It's rare to come across such a hearty exchange.

As for friendship and little me!!! i always thought my friend had to be my same gender, age, background and very much like me in all ways....Hhmmm I'm not sure now



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