I really felt so close to the people on this site.
we too felt close to you. you project your kind feelings on us all around here.
I have failed as a parent.
Full Moon tells me : dont be too harsh on yourself....
don't be too harsh.
The child you bring up with so much love and care and then there is trust bulid up between parent and child.
My child is into drugs.
and you think you are to blame
of course not ....
you would be to blame if *you* are the one who started the drugs thing at home... but that is not the case.
you have to start dealing with this issue with one most basic line of islamic rules: you do what you can, then it is up to God.
I must end my reply with this same statement....
Used to be an A student,still not bad. He is working hard how "Not to get Caught". It was a shock for me to see a cop knock on my door at 1:00am and tell me that he has handcuffed my child on charges of possession of drugs. I had suspected before many times
hmmm. you should have then maybe rung the big bells..... but let us go on.
,talked to him about it but he rather make me prove wrong by saying,"you do not trust me".
Yes, you needed help at that time. you should have sought some help at that time. but anyway, past is past, let us deal with the present.
He spoke in favour of drugs and has been studyingbout them on internet while I was asleep and he made me think that he was studying. I have never studied or seen drugs or met anybody doing drugs. He had stolen $1000 kept in the house as an emergency cash.
That is what drugs do .... am sorry for you and your child . I feel with you both.
That night he was sent home with me.I had to spend time,money to hire an attorney because I have never been in such asituation before.He regretted,did tauba,even started saying prayers with my asking him. I loved him so much that he has been guided. But when school started,he went back to the same group. I suspected him but he was braver than before. I called the Drug Helpline. They advised me to call the school. We had a meeting with the counsellor. I was happy that he might have learnt something. Shocking to me,he stole money from my purse the same day..
so you can see now that you cannot trust anymore neither his promises nor his will to quit. You need some stronger solution.
He never accepted it. I never thought that in one minute he will do it.I started working less, stopped his after school activities nad started to drive him back from school I told him that if I am ever suspicious of him he is going to rehab,and he will not be going to school any more. I was happy that he had understood.
What is the reputation of the rehab where you are living ?
What do the professionals in your city say about the city's rehabs ?
A few days later again,because it hapened to be the same group and he IS addicted.
Many times I thought about keeping him at home )no School)but then though about his future. I am waiting till he finishes High School in a few months. I am worried about his health,his life ,his future. He is filling out college applications. Yesterday he came home,he hid something in his hands and never showed me..Toay I found it for sure Drug.Onetime drug test was positive..next time negative even he was doing drugs. How was he able to do that. He keeps befooling me.
yes, this is apparently bigger than what you could alone handle. you must get some help on this.
I find myself helpless here,unless he wants to change.
I am CERTAIN that he too does want to quit .... but he can't. Alone , he won't be able to quit.
your help, am sorry to say, won't be enough. you need professional help.
What is the future of this child?
let us keep faith and hope.
Should I take him off from school ,put him in a rehab?
why not ask your family doctor ?
he must know how rehabs are in your city
Is it going to help my child?
Probably yes, but ask more.
Should I let him finish high school?
That could be too much risk to take if he is under severe peer pressure as it appears from your letter.
He isbent upon ruining his own life. What is the solution for asingle mom? I am anxiously waiting for the replies.
Keep the faith, keep the Iman. Now once again: do your best, and then leave it up to God.
