Topic: 4 marriages!

[mani]

AOA
I just wanted to know that can a Muslim man have four wives at one time or he can have a maximum of four wives?

[fraudulent]

the former

[nuaeman]

Four wife at one time? It not a problem I think if the person really can manage it at one time. Yeah the maximum quota is 4 for muslim man but if he cant manage just enough to stick with one.

[The Full Moon]

Islam gave the man the right to marry four wives, if he can be just with all of them. And treat them equally.

We can see the wisdom in our religion whose rules were made for all times and situations, for example:

at the time of war: many men die and many ladies are widowed or never been married..Our religion looks after our society.. it looks after them all by providing a solution to a problem. The man who is willing to have more than one wife may marry a second.

If a woman is bare, which situation is better to the family, getting a divorce or allow her husband to marry another woman and may be raising the children together.

There are many many many other situations that having a second wife will be considered a better solution.

What if a man who has been married to a lady for 20 years and decide to have a younger bride, is it better to send his first wife packing and his children devided between the two of them.. its defenetly up to them.. but each one has to wonder what is best for the family as a whole.

We are not talking about the man who married over 80 and kept them all at the same time. That is not what Islam called for, neither it called for the man or the woman to jump from one marraige to another, and breaking families at a drop of a dime.

Marraige is a huge responsibility and the one who understand that is mature enough to think about marrying a second wife.

Salam

[farrah]

I hear that nowadays,the number of unmarried women is greater than unmarried men. Can four marriages be considered a solution to this?

[The Full Moon]

I hear that nowadays,the number of unmarried women is greater than unmarried men. Can four marriages be considered a solution to this?

My answers to your question:

1- In religion the rules does not change to suit the circumstances, the rules are applied through all the times and until the day of Judgments. And they are fair, even if we do not understand them thoroughly.

2- we can look at this as a solution, but we cannot force guys to marry and be resposible of 4 wives, or force girls to accept marrying an old guy or married or accept some of them who move from one marriage to another just for his own enjoyment and hiding behind this rule. Marriage is a responsibility that all partners has to understand.

In my personal opinion, people has to be entering into such relations with honesty and good faith, and keeping in mind applying fairness to all.

best salam.

[silkworm]

Bro Mani, you are curious, huh??? Anyways, according to Islamic beliefs the 4 wives theory is a provision and not a compulsion. Well, if you can afford and if you can do proper justice among wives, you can do that. No Problema, but when you feel that you can't, you better stick to one.

[farrah]

When people (Muslims and Non-Muslims) talk about "4 marraiges in Islam",they forget the condition of treating all of them equal,which is very difficult to do. So men must stick to only one.

[silkworm]

One-Man One-Woman relationship is actually an anglo-saxon thing, since antiquity men always wanted to have different flavours. Islam legalized it due to women being widowed, captured and disowned by their clans. This was the best way to stop sexual lewdness and growing corruption in the society.

However technically one need one, and as far as women is concerned, One is more than enough..

[farrah]

I have seen widows struggling to feed their children and nobody cares about them. Rather they are accused of going out of the house.